| There are ways to get your ex back even if you feel | | | | Once the problem or conflict has been identified you |
| completely helpless. A breakup can leave you with a | | | | can seek to resolve it. Does someone need to |
| range of emotions, many of which can paralyze you in | | | | change? Are their any annoying quirks that get on |
| making decisions. Anger, loneliness, and questions | | | | your nerves? Can you live with them? Can you be |
| about your own self-esteem can leave you depressed | | | | more understanding? Don't think about the conflict that |
| if you let them. What you need to do is take a step | | | | it might be too big to resolve. People overcome conflict |
| back and really ask yourself, "Is there a chance for this | | | | everyday. The thing to consider is do you really want |
| relationship to still work?" If so, then these guidelines will | | | | to resolve the conflict to make the relationship |
| help you get your ex back. | | | | work?Working through the conflict can make your |
| | | | relationship stronger and help you get your ex back. |
| 1. Mourn your breakup - studies consistently show that | | | | 4. Mend the relationship by offering an apology. |
| after a long love relationship the emotions involved are | | | | Contact your ex and set up a meeting in a friendly |
| the same as the grieving the death of a loved one. | | | | environment, like a coffee shop or bookstore. Look into |
| Take the time to evaluate what you're feeling. | | | | their eyes and talk to them about how you feel and |
| Evaluate your relationship and determine if you really | | | | admit your part in the relationship. Be careful so you |
| want to get your ex back. Don't forget to take care of | | | | don't heap the blame on your partner. Let them know |
| yourself. Continue to get your proper nutrition, watch | | | | that you're willing to work through your issues and |
| your diet, exercise, and get plenty of sleep. | | | | theirs. Tell them the positive things you love about |
| 2. Reflect on your relationship - after you've had some | | | | them. This meeting will go a long way in clearing the |
| time to grieve and analyze the breakup, really take | | | | path to restoring the relationship. |
| some time to reflect on what happened in your | | | | These steps are not a guaranteed process to get |
| relationship. Talk to your friends and get their input. The | | | | your ex back. They will guide you in evaluating your |
| key here is to gather enough information to understand | | | | relationship and determining if you really want to |
| why things escalated to the breakup point. Don't look | | | | restore it. You're not setting out to change the other |
| for fault in only one person; each one has a role in the | | | | person, look to yourself first. Once you're aware of |
| relationship. | | | | your part in the break up you have a better chance at |
| 3. Resolve the conflict - taking time to reflect can help | | | | getting your ex back, while making your relationship |
| you identify what went wrong in your relationship. | | | | stronger. |